It’s no easy task being a good mom. Lean into the Bible to discover bible verses about (good) parenting you didn’t even realize were actually about being a parent.
bible verses about good parenting (you didn’t realize were about parenting)
“This is the way I was parented and look at me!” you thought as you sat at the edge of your bed. One of many thoughts racing through your head after reacting a little too harshly…again.
You let the Mom-ster out this time after you told yourself you weren’t going to do it again.
I know how you feel, Sister. I’ve been there.
Until something shifted in me. I decided to take a different approach to parenting. Still Biblical, but not as cryptic as what I always thought.
Some days can get like that still – not nearly as often or with the same intensity. But still… it happens.
Sure, it’s helpful to know you should “train a child” and don’t “spare the rod.” But what does that mean exactly? I never knew. And I always wondered…
What does it even look like to be a good parent?
God revealed a few verses about parenting – ones I never thought about when it came to parenting. And I started reading parenting books dealing with strong-willed kids and discovered these Biblical principles about parenting. It wasn’t long before everything changed!
And they’re part of a wild ride in changing my parenting to reflect more of His heart for my children than the plan our world around us longs for.
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Proverbs 4:23 (NIV)
In the moments when you unleashed your inner Mom-ster because you just didn’t know what to do about your kiddos unrolling the entire roll of toilet paper INSIDE the toilet again, recognize your reaction isn’t their fault. It isn’t a matter of “I wouldn’t get so mad if only they wouldn’t do that.”
It’s an outpouring of your own heart revealed through the words coming out of your mouth. It is possible to get your kiddos to listen without yelling.
It takes time and practice (and some apologies too) but it’s possible.
“What shall we say then? Are we to continue in sin that grace may abound? 2 By no means! How can we who died to sin still live in it?” romans 6:1-2 (esv)
Once you realize your reactions are your responsibility alone, you’ll battle shame. Ask forgiveness from your Heavenly Father and know this isn’t a path to continue on. Sure, we have “grace upon grace” (John 1:16, ESV) and “where sin increased, grace abounded all the more” (Romans 5:20 ESV), but Paul calls our attention to this when he reminds us we shouldn’t continue living in our sin just because grace abounds all the more.
Grace is a call to action.
It is a gift you put to use. Don’t place it on a shelf to collect dust only to pull it down when you need it again. Accept His grace and change your ways. (And be sure to ditch the shame, rebuking the enemy when he tries to shame you.)
That leads me to the next verse.
“For God did not send His Son into the world that He might condemn the world, but that the world might be saved through Him.” John 3:17 (HCSB)
Remember what the bible says about grace. Grace and shame have no place together. Not ever.
“If you love me, keep my commands.” john 14:15 (niv)
Obedience comes out of love. Plain and simple. Jesus said the greatest commandment is “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the greatest and most important command. The second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself. All the Law and the Prophets depend on these two commands.” (Matthew 22:37-40 HCSB).
And then, in the above scripture, he told us if we love him, we will obey his commands.
Another call to action, Sister.
And obedience from your children should also come from love. Control and fear in an effort to get obedience doesn’t bring about the type of relationship you want with your kiddos.
And it’s certainly not the relationship God longs to have with your kids either.
“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” 1 john 4:18 (niv)
Sweet Sister, you are never going to be perfect.
At the very least, you won’t do anything a good therapist or our God Almighty can’t fix.
But you can continue to reflect His perfect love as best through your parenting. That’s the point of parenting anyway: to reflect His love and give our kiddos a good picture of our Heavenly Father so they can have the kind of relationship with Him we’re striving to have with them.
And as long as you make that your constant goal, you will always be a good parent.